Dating a bipolar sufferer
I may be suffering, but I keep that suffering to myself, and I attempt to keep my anxious thoughts to myself.
For me, having anxiety means that I’ll naturally revert back to negative thinking if I’m not thoughtfully and actively reminding myself to be optimistic, or if the man I’m dating gives me too much space, which becomes room to wonder.
An example of inconsistency is this: On Monday, your partner sends you several loving texts and plenty of affirmations about how much they love you. On Wednesday, you get a casual call or text asking how your day is, but it almost sounds like they could be talking to a friend. Instead of casually mentioning that you get a little bit insecure when you don’t hear from him, take the time to actually explain how your anxiety manifests when you’re left with room to guess, wonder and worry.
Tell him where your brain goes and why this happens.
Anxiety is feeling way too much pain, yet being in a dissociated state or feeling as though it’s pointless to keep trying to explain how we feel.
When I’m anxious, sometimes my empathy, rational thinking, and true feelings go out the window while anxious thoughts temporarily take over. It could be the most innocuous comment or the most insignificant change in someone’s behavior.
On insecurity, read: This Silent Killer Can Unexpectedly Destroy Your New Relationship You see, people with anxiety will guess, wonder and worry unless the person with whom they’re in a relationship doesn’t leave room for any of that.
Anxiety is wanting to be understood while often being incapable of explaining our true feelings.
A lot of anxiety stems from feelings of uncertainty.
It’s the not knowing or not understanding why his behavior is inconsistent that gets to us.
Anxiety sufferers trying to date someone new tend to need extra attention.
Everyone likes getting attention from their new love interest, but in the beginning of a relationship, you rarely get that kind of attention every day.